Two of Britain’s youngest transgender children describe how it feels to be a girl after being born boys.
Proverbs 22:15: A child’s heart has a tendency to do wrong, but the rod of discipline removes it far away from him.
Lily, 6, said that if she had to live as a boy she “would be really upset,” while Jessica said she feels like she is living in “the wrong body”
“If I had to live as a boy I would be really upset,” says Lily matter-of-factly as she draws a picture.
Lily, 6, and her friend Jessica, eight, (not their real names), look like typically happy young girls playing with dolls.
But both were born boys and are among the youngest transgender children in the UK.
The number of children under the age of 10 referred to the NHS for support in dealing with transgender feelings has more than quadrupled in the last six years
Gender: Lily wants to live her life as a girl
These BBC interviews show children speaking about their transgender feelings with the permission of their parents.
Born as boys, Lily and Jessica had early interests in things normally associated with girls, such as dresses, dolls and jewellery.
Dressed just like any other girl, Lily explained that she had wanted to be female “my whole life really”.
From an early age, both Lily and Jessica had become increasingly unhappy with their male gender, their parents said.
The two children became uncomfortable – even distressed – about being boys, the BBC reports.
Lily said that if she had to live as a boy she “would be really upset,” and that “now I’m sort of living as a girl I feel much better.”
When asked why she started wearing girls clothes she said: “I wanted to because I wanted to just see how it looked and see if anyone laughed or not and I would be happier then.
“I am a girl, I like girl’s stuff.”
She said she was a bit “sad” when having to wear boy’s clothes.
The youngster has a medical condition called gender dysphoria.
The NHS describes the condition as being where “a person experiences discomfort or distress because there is a mismatch between their biological sex and gender identity.”
Lily and Jessica’s parents thought their preference for girls’ toys and dresses might just be a phase they were going through.
But they are still behaving as girls normally would after several years.
Jessica explained that she found being a boy “really frustrating for me. It felt like I didn’t fit in”.
Asked why being a boy would make her unhappy, she said “Because I just don’t feel like I should be a boy – I feel like I’m in the wrong body.”
She said she was unhappy “because it’s not a girl’s body.”
The youngster went through a stage of not drinking any water at school after feeling unable to use either the boys or girls toilets – holding on to use the loo when she got home.
Jessica once screamed at a dinner lady for describing calling her a boy, the BBC reports.
Around 1% of people in the UK are thought to be transgender.
The Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust in London and Leeds is Britain’s only centre for transgender issues affecting youngsters under 18.
There has been a four-fold increase in children aged 10 or under being referred to the unit over the past six years, the BBC reports.
Of those children, 47 were aged five or younger – two of them are just three years old.
Mermaids, a charity supporting parents whose children have gender issues says it has received 60 calls this year from parents believing their child may be transgender.
When Lily – who was born a boy – wanted to wear dresses her parents just thought she would just grow out of it, and “may grow up to be gay.”
The youngster reportedly had a huge tantrum at that age when asked to take off a dress at a friend’s house.
Lily’s mum Jen said it was difficult to come to terms with the fact your child is transgender.
Jessica’s mum Ella split from her dad and is now in a long-term relationship with another woman, Alexandra, the BBC reports.
Ella said it had “crossed my mind” that her relationship might have contributed to her son wanting to be a girl.
But she said she has two older sons who do not.
The Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust says when young children have gender dysphoria they are monitored over time but that it “wouldn’t consider it generally helpful to make a formal diagnosis in very young children”.
The centre provides counselling and support – with medical intervention not considered until a child approaches puberty.
Hormone blockers may then be prescribed, which delay the physical change of puberty.
A patient can consider taking cross-sex hormones at the age of 16, and surgery after 18, the BBC reports.
Gender reassignment surgery on the NHS is estimated to cost around £10,000.
Life for people who are transgender can be tough psychologically and physically.
According to the mental health charity PACE, 59% of transgender young people said they’d self-harmed, compared with just under 9% of all 16-24 year olds, the BBC reports.
The Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust welcomed the interviews and said it was “encouraging that the BBC interviewed two children who currently identify as being transgender”.
On the BBC Two show, one of the youngest Louis met was Camille, a 5-year-old who until a few months ago was a boy named Sebastian.
In the programme Sebastian wanted to be known as a girl and be referred to as ‘she’.
In the series, Louis travelled to San Francisco where a group of pioneering medical professionals help children who say they were born in the wrong body transition from boy to girl or girl to boy at ever younger ages.
These Children are confused what they need is prayer, counselling and deliverance, they don’t know what they are feeling and thinking. The bible says in Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. When raising godly kids, use the Word of God and don’t try to teach children without it, which will only lead them to rebelliousness. God knows children and He knows what you need to do to bring them up right. Parents are either going to prepare their children to follow Christ or to follow the world. Are you teaching them to follow the world? If we don’t teach our children to follow Christ, the world will teach them not to. Children are great imitators. So give them something great to imitate.
Matthew 18:5-6 “And anyone who welcomes a little child like this on my behalf is welcoming me. But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.
Written by TCE Global News